How To Speak Your Child’s Love Language-“Quality Time”
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Focused Friday is a time when you get your priorities straight. It’s a time to refocus on something that’s really important in your life. It’s easy to get caught up in the grind of things and then lose focus on the task at hand. As a mom, it happens more often than I might want, would you agree?
The other week we talked about spending quality time with your children in a one-on-one setting. A lot of good feedback came in after that post was published. One of my favorite comments came from a mom who mentioned their child’s love language is “Quality Time”. I was so impressed that she recognized there child’s love language and that she was making an effort to actually act on it rather than ignore it.
Do you have a child (or children) with the love language quality time? Maybe it’s not your child but maybe it’s your spouse. Whoever that person is in your life, I want you to think of this person as you read today’s Focused Friday message.
Quality Time as a Love Language
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
When someone’s love language is quality time, that means that the person feels most loved when the other person spends quality time with them and that person gives you their complete attention, focus and time. Each person engages in good eye contact and comes together with an open mind and an open heart. It’s not a time of judging, disciplining, critiquing but a time of love and joy between the both of you.
Act Out The Love Language “Quality Time”
I want you to think of 5 ways you can show love to your child by acting on their love language of quality time. Commit to 20 minutes (or more) this weekend to just being with your child in an environment where your attention is fully devoted to your child.
Here are 10 ideas to help you get started:
1. Read together
2. Cooking together
3. Doing a craft together
4. Building something together (blocks or legos)
5. Doing an outdoor activity together
6. Fixing something together
7. Have a meal together
8. Cuddle and conversation together
9. Play a game together
10. Pray and/or worship together
Make sure you give your child really good eye contact, respond promptly after your child speaks, do what your child asks of you and be close to your child. Don’t allow others to get in the way of your special time together. It should just be you and your child and no one else (well, maybe a pet would be ok to join you!)
Related: 33 Ideas For Quality One-On-One Time With Your Child
A child whose love language is quality time might not enjoy the quality time he/she has with you if other siblings are interfering. This isn’t the case all the time, but for now, I want you to have one-on-one time together as our main focus. If you are looking for ideas on what to do for fun one-on-one dates, check out this awesome list of 33 ideas.
I hope your child gets excited the moment you tell her you want to do something special with her and just her alone. I can’t wait to hear how it goes and how your child’s behavior was following your quality time together. Did it brighten her mood? Did you feel a stronger bond between the two of you afterwards? Comment below! I would love to hear from you.
If you want to learn more about The 5 Love Languages, including Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation, you would enjoy reading my tips and ideas in the other posts mentioned below.
Keep Smiling,
Dr. Jena Bradley, DPT
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Quality time is so important no matter what your child’s love language is. I want to read this book and will definitely add to my wish list. I read the Five Love Languages for Singles, but it would be interesting to read the one for children as well. Thank you for sharing.
Darcey, quality time is so important! I think all parents would benefit from reading this book.