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Do you feel like your children suck up all your attention every moment they can? So much so that you don’t have time for your husband? Wait, what about your husband? Don’t forget about him. Focusing on your marriage is even more important than focusing on your children.


That might not sound good on paper but honestly it’s the truth. Your marriage is the foundation to a loving home.


Today’s Focus Friday post is about focusing on your spouse, the love of your life, your best friend, the one who married you and promised to be your partner until you die.


I typically write my Focused Friday posts to get you motivated for the weekend and give you something new to focus on every Friday in one quick post.  I honestly feel like this could be the topic of a whole new blog! There is just so much information to learn when it comes to marriages and relationships.


The relationship between a husband and wife is complex in itself but throw children into the mix and it’s a whole other ball game.


I’m going to keep it simple for today and motivate you to focus on your spouse in a way that you typically don’t do on a regular basis.


What is your spouse’s love language? If you don’t know what I am talking about, you can get a quick glimpse of the 5 Love Languages HERE. Better yet, buy the book, “The 5 Love Languages”, and really get a full understanding of the 5 Love Languages while being able to further grow your relationship with your spouse in a deeper level in such a simple way. THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE (and your entire life)!


The 5 Love Languages

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Quality Time

3. Receiving Gifts

4. Acts of Service

5. Physical Touch 


Anyways, back to focusing on your spouse. Whatever his love language is, commit to doing 3 acts a day for the next 3 days that targets your spouse’s love language. Three days, that’s not so hard, is it?


Let’s Call This

“3 FOR 3”


For example, my love language is quality time. If my husband was reading this post, he would try to devote three intentional moments throughout the day to spending quality time with me. Possibly waking up in the morning and giving me an extra 2 minutes of cuddle time. Maybe when he gets home from work, he sits down and talks to me about how our days went. And at the end of the night he could give me a foot rub after a long day of taking care of the kids. Three acts of “Quality Time” in one day! I’m a happy woman!


The challenge for this post is to do this for 3 days (Friday, Saturday and Sunday). See how it goes. Don’t put a time limit on it but just try to reach the goal of 3 acts a day for 3 days.


Related: How To Speak Your Child’s Love Language – “Quality Time” 


Your spouse deserves your attention. I know your children need you in order to be nourished and taken care of, but really your spouse needs you too. Don’t forget about him.


You know the saying “Happy Wife, Happy Life”. Well, the same goes for husbands too. “Happy Husband, Home Strengthened!”


You will see the core of your home, your family, get stronger if you and your spouse have joy together.


Keep Smiling,

Dr. Jena Bradley, DPT


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  1. Jade

    Love this post! My husband and I also make a point to integrate the 5 love languages into our marriage on a daily basis. It has made a WORLD of difference. I doubt we would be married today if we didn’t.

    • Jena Bradley

      So glad to hear. Isn’t it amazing how one simple concept can change your life! Glad it’s working for your marriage.


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